Church Relationships - Part 1

March 24, 2023

Matthew 18:1–14

Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?  Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven. Matthew 18:21–22

Events: 

1. Jesus teaches about the relationship of little children to His church.

2. Jesus teaches about peacemaking and church discipline.

3. Jesus teaches about the necessity of forgiving our brothers and sisters.

What does this passage teach us?

Verses 1–14. The first thing that we are taught in these verses, is the necessity of conversion, and of conversion manifested by childlike humility. The disciples came to our Lord with the question, “Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” They spoke as men half-enlightened, and full of carnal expectations. They received an answer well calculated to awaken them from their day-dream—an answer containing a truth which lies at the very foundation of Christianity—“except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven.”

Let these words sink down deeply into our hearts. Without conversion there is no salvation. We all need an entire change of nature. Of ourselves we have neither faith, nor fear, nor love towards God. “We must be born again.” Of ourselves we are utterly unfit for dwelling in God’s presence. Heaven would be no heaven to us if we were not converted. It is true of all ranks, classes, and orders of mankind. All are born in sin as children of wrath, and all, without exception, need to be born again and made new creatures. A new heart must be given to us, and a new spirit put within us. Old things must pass away, and all things must become new. It is a good thing to be baptized into the Christian Church, and use Christian means of grace. But after all, “are we converted?”

Would we know whether we are really converted? Would we know the test by which we must try ourselves? The surest mark of true conversion is humility. If we have really received the Holy Spirit, we shall show it by a meek and childlike spirit. Like children, we shall think humbly of our own strength and wisdom, and be very dependent on our Father in heaven. Like children, we shall not seek great things in this world; and having food and clothing and a Father’s love we shall be content. Truly this is a heart-searching test! It exposes the unsoundness of many a so-called conversion. It is easy to be a convert from one party to another party, from one sect to another sect, from one set of opinions to another set of opinions. Such conversions save no one’s soul. What we all want is a conversion from pride to humility—from high thoughts of ourselves to lowly thoughts of ourselves—from self-conceit to self-abasement—from the mind of the Pharisee to the mind of the Tax-collector. A conversion of this kind we must experience, if we hope to be saved. These are the conversions that are wrought by the Holy Spirit.

The next thing that we are taught in these verses, is the great sin of putting stumbling blocks in the way of believers. The words of the Lord Jesus on this subject are peculiarly solemn. “Woe unto the world because of offences! For it must needs be that offences come; but woe to that man by whom the offence cometh!”

We put offences or stumbling blocks in the way of men’s souls, whenever we do anything to keep them back from Christ—or to turn them out of the way of salvation—or to disgust them with true religion. We may do it directly by persecuting, ridiculing, opposing, or dissuading them from decided service of Christ. We may do it indirectly by living a life inconsistent with our religious profession, and by making Christianity loathsome and distasteful by our own conduct. Whenever we do anything of the kind, it is clear, from our Lord’s words, that we commit a great sin.

There is something very fearful in the doctrine here laid down. It ought to stir up within us great searchings of heart. It is not enough that we wish to do good in this world. Are we quite sure that we are not doing harm? We may not openly persecute Christ’s servants. But are there none that we are injuring by our ways and our example? It is dreadful to think of the amount of harm that can be done by one inconsistent professor of religion. He gives a handle to the infidel. He supplies the worldly man with an excuse for remaining undecided. He checks the inquirer after salvation. He discourages the saints. He is, in short, a living sermon on behalf of the devil. The last day alone will reveal the wholesale ruin of souls that “offences” have occasioned in the Church of Christ. 

The next thing that we are taught in these verses is, the reality of future punishment after death. Two strong expressions are used by our Lord on this point. He speaks of being “cast into everlasting fire.” He speaks of being “cast into hell fire.”

The meaning of these words is clear and unmistakable. There is a place of unspeakable misery in the world to come, to which all who die impenitent and unbelieving, must ultimately be consigned. There is revealed in Scripture a “fiery indignation,” which sooner or later will devour all God’s adversaries (Heb. 10:27). The same sure word that holds out a heaven to all who repent and are converted, declares plainly that there will be a hell for all the ungodly.

Let no man deceive us with vain words upon this dreadful subject. Men have arisen in these latter days, who profess to deny the eternity of future punishment, and repeat the devil’s old argument, that we “shall not surely die” (Gen. 3:4). Let none of their reasoning move us, however plausible they may sound. Let us stand fast in the old paths. The God of love and mercy, is also a God of justice. He will surely punish. The flood in Noah’s day, and the burning of Sodom, were meant to show us what He will one day do. No lips have ever spoken so clearly about hell as those of Christ Himself. Hardened sinners will find out, to their cost, that there is such a thing as the “wrath of the Lamb” (Rev. 6:17).

The last thing we are taught in these verses, is the value that God sets on the least and lowest of believers. “It is not the will of your Father in heaven, that one of these little ones should perish.”

These words are meant for the encouragement of all true Christians, and not for little children only. The connection in which they are found with the parable of the hundred sheep and one that went astray, seems to place this beyond doubt. They are meant to show us that our Lord Jesus is a Shepherd, who cares tenderly for every soul committed to His charge. The youngest, the weakest, the sickliest of His flock is as dear to Him as the strongest. They shall never perish. None shall ever pluck them out of His hand. He will lead them gently through the wilderness of this world. He will not overdrive them a single day, lest any die (Gen. 33:13). He will carry them through every difficulty. He will defend them against every enemy. The saying that He spoke shall be literally fulfilled—“Of them which Thou gavest Me have I lost none” (John 18:9). With such a Savior, who need fear beginning to be a thorough Christian? With such a Shepherd, who, having once begun, need fear being cast away?

Questions:

1. What are the themes of chapters 1 through 18?

2. Who did Jesus have with Him as an object lesson, as He taught His disciples in this passage?

3. How does Jesus describe little children? What is it about children that adults should emulate?

4. How might a hand or an eye offend us? To what ends should we go to address sin in our lives?

Family Discussion Questions:

1. Little children are often not as proud or pretentious as adults may be. How do we treat these little children in the church? Do we prevent children from becoming members of the church until they are more intelligent about doctrinal matters? Do we seek to humble ourselves?

2. What sort of stumbling blocks might we place in the way of children today? If 60–80% of Christian children are walking away from the faith as they leave their “Christian” homes, what is the problem? How have they stumbled?